My grandmothers 1959 cookbook inspired me to seek out sage advice from modern hosts.

); and expectedly, a bit dated.

Here are their tips and tricks for hosting guestsand actually enjoying them.

Southern Living Party Punch in a bowl to serve

Credit:Victor Protasio, Food Stylist: Margaret Dickey

(He wrote a whole summer menu based on this principle in a recent issue.)

You should read it if you havent.

Its really helpful, and the recipes are deliciously easy.)

Now, hes big on serving tried-and-true dishes.

When people see you hustling or stress, they feel guilty, he notes.

I want folks to absorb good, calm vibes from me, as opposed to frantic ones.

Do not make a run at do everything yourself.

Then, when the time comes, have a glass of wine and let go!

Always check that to know any allergies ahead of time to ensure you arent pivoting quickly.

And rather than keeping visitors out of the kitchen, she says to welcome them in.

You should not feel that it is cheating; its really sharing something you really like.

I think its about sharing what you have with others, whatever that is.