Rule of thumb: Opt for a gift that the host wont feel obligated to serve.

Hosting expert and bestselling cookbook authorIna Gartenis no stranger to this conundrum.

So I never do that, Garten said in the interview.

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(If you must, she added, have the florist send flowers already in a vase.)

She encouraged guests to think outside the box.

Even when a host saysnot to bring something, a happy treat is always polite.

And, a sweet handwritten message of gratitude always goes a long way.

In this case, it is truly the thought that counts.