So a lot of my sons relatives did not get invited.

I told her it was not right for her to do that.

What are your thoughts?

A bride screams with cash in her hands.

I was very hurt.

-S.

Dear S.,

This isnt about wedding announcements and money, is it?

The hurt you feel is completely understandable.

Dear Penny

You wanted to share in the joy of your sons wedding.

Or are you inferring that if shes sending out wedding announcements, it must be a blatant money grab?

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Wedding announcements arent usually intended as a way to beg for cash.

Of course, some people will interpret a wedding announcement as money grubbing.

Part of the problem with wedding etiquette is that were often adapting centuries-old rules to 21st century life.

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Unless youre leaving out key details, their reasoning sounds childish at best.

Life comes with disappointments.

That said, marriage brings together two families who often have two different sets of values.

What you or I may consider hurtful or rude may be completely normal in another family, and vice-versa.

So I think you should probably have a conversation with your son and your daughter-in-law together.

Try explaining how you feel about both the wedding announcements and the courthouse ceremony without casting judgment.

I dont want people to feel pressured to give money, so Im not going to get involved.

Youre not casting a judgment here.

Youre simply drawing a boundary about what youre willing to do.

Again, dont take a stab at assign any nefarious motives.

Obviously, theres nothing they can say that will undo what transpired on their wedding day.

And it may be that they stand behind their actions.

Robin Hartill is a certified financial planner and a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.

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