He is 41 years old.
My nephew was sent back to jail when the baby was 6 months old for a parole violation.
I had never met the babys mother.
She indicated that my nephew would be released in June of 2022.
I gave them over $3,000 during this period.
When my nephew got into more trouble in jail, they extended his release date to ?
I dont want to assist any longer, as its digging into my hard-earned savings.
Still, I get why you feel torn, given that you just want the best for this child.
But youve made your decision, and I think its the right one.
Im not sure if youve met your nephews girlfriend since you initially gave her money.
Drowning in Expenses?
Maybe youre scrambling after your car broke down.
Or you got a medical bill you werent expecting.
Or inflation has finally pushed your budget over the edge.
You dont need to go it alone.
When money is tight,these resourcescan help you manage unexpected expenses without stress.
Now you should probably stick to your decision.
Your nephew and his girlfriends feelings on the matter are irrelevant.
Id suggest shutting down any future requests without engaging in a drawn-out conversation.
Avoid discussing the why.
Likewise, dont lecture your nephews girlfriend about accountability or question her life choices.
When you say more, you give the impression that something is actually up for debate.
You could simply ignore her texts or phone calls.
Is Your Bank Holding You Back?
Got $1,000 in checking?
Thesesmart movescould help you reach your next big savings goal.
But again, thats only if you change your mind.
Youre not obligated to offer any assistance.
I think the hard part here is that youre more or less powerless.
Nor will it prompt his parents to make different life choices.
Try not to waste any more time worrying that your nephew and his girlfriend resent you.
Theyre allowed to have their own thoughts and feelings, no matter how illogical they may be.
But let this be a hard-won lesson about the high price of helping someone out.
Stand firm, and dont let your nephew or his girlfriend treat you like a human ATM.
Robin Hartill is a certified financial planner and a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.
Send your tricky money questions to[email protected].
