She is divorced and has no kids at home.
Her dad was a doctor, so I am sure the amount was comfortable.
I am still working in my 60s, which is my choice.
I do 75% of the trips, which is around 150 miles round trip.
I also pay for all the meals, outside entertainment, etc.
I dont expect her to contribute toward any household bills, and neither does she.
She never offers to pay for anything, much less drive us anywhere, even once in a while.
In my mind, its not even a money thing.
Its more of the principle every now and then, offer to treat me.
Im still out there working, being self-sufficient, while she is doing whatever she wants every day.
Id be curious as to your thoughts on this.
I do love being with her, but it sure seems like it is a one-sided partnership.
Gender isnt a factor here.
But your girlfriend isnt a mindreader.
Youve been paying for everything, driving her around and doing most of the traveling for 10 years.
From her perspective, this sounds like a great relationship.
You brew coffee at home, you dont walk into Target and you refuse to order avocado toast.
(Can you sense my millennial sarcasm there?)
You know which ones were talking about: rent, utilities, cell phone bill, insurance, groceries…
If you want anything to change, youre going to have to say something to your girlfriend.
I think you summed it up beautifully for me.
you’re able to tell her: I love spending time with you.
This really isnt about money, but about the principle.
Every so often, Id love it if you could offer to treat me.
After a decade, she may be surprised by this request.
But its hard to imagine a reasonable person taking issue, especially since your girlfriend has plenty of money.
What you do with that information is up to you.
If you enjoy spending time with her, you’ve got the option to continue things as-is.
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Even if your girlfriend agrees to give more, shemay need a bit of nudging at first.
Dont be afraid to nudge her a bit.
Its entirely appropriate to say Want to take care of this one?
here and there when the dinner check arrives.
Dont expect this dynamic to change on its own.
Robin Hartill is a certified financial planner and a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.
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