He refuses to pay for anything for our child.
Not school supplies, clothes, classes, or birthday and Christmas gifts.
He will even avoid me when I give a shot to talk to him about it.
I never have money because I pay bills also and pay for everything for our child.
What should I do?
Im not sure if youve simply dropped the matter when your husband has refused to discuss child costs.
But you gotta make it clear that theres no more avoidingthis subject.
Im always broke because of how we split the bills, and I cant keep living this way.
Maybe a more direct approach will get your husbands attention.
Otherwise, you may need to up the pressure a bit by making him responsible for more bills.
This will be a delicate dance, though.
Pressure tends to breed conflict, and you dont want to create a hostile environment for your child.
Drowning in Expenses?
Maybe youre scrambling after your car broke down.
Or you got a medical bill you werent expecting.
Or inflation has finally pushed your budget over the edge.
You dont need to go it alone.
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Your ultimate goal should be to get your husband to sit down andreview the household budgetwith you.
Then, aim to make a habit of paying bills together each month.
Child expenses shouldnt be treated any differently than any other expenses.
It also typically doesnt make sense for couples to split bills 50/50 when one person earns significantly more.
Of course, thats all assuming your husband will agree to budget together.
Refusing to pay for, or even discuss, his childs expenses is unconscionable.
The most charitable explanation is that hes being selfish.
What you do with that message is up to you.
You cant force someone to change, but you could show them that actions have consequences.
Robin Hartill is a certified financial planner and a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.
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