You wont always fall in love with someone in your tax bracket.

That disparity is often a big source of stress in relationships, judging from the Dear Penny inbox.

You dont have to be in the same place moneywise for a relationship to succeed.

Two people who are not compatible sit awkwardly on a couch.

Weve been dating for two years, and its been wonderful.

The way I see it, I am very responsible with the money I do make.

I dont have any debt, and I pay all my own bills.

Dear Penny

Do you have any advice for us?

-R.

Dear R.,

Its been a wonderful two years.

Youre talking about growing old together.

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That doesnt sound wonderful to me.

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I was married for almost 43 years.

Were both healthy and physically active.

We love to dance, hike and visit new places.

He doesnt have much money.

His Social Security is minimal.

His house is paid off, his expenses are low, and he is careful with his money.

My husband left me financially secure.

We were always careful with money and never lived an extravagant lifestyle.

Ive got two adult children who are financially independent.

The man Im seeing doesnt have much disposable income and isnt concerned about it.

Im not sure about a long-term future with him feeling this way.

Im not talking about fine dining and five-star hotels.

I have no problem paying my share, but not for both of us.

Is this relationship doomed because of our differences in attitude on finances?

Should we just enjoy what we have?

-Am I Too Old to Have It All?

Your letter screams yes to me.

You share the same hobbies.

You like his family and friends.

Your boyfriend sounds like someone who manages what little money he does have wisely.

He can afford his lifestyle he just cant afford your lifestyle.

Will My Huge Paycheck Scare Away the Men I Date?

Im making significantly more than the average person here, especially at my age.

-K.

Dear K.,

Pretend youre having the salary talk with a guy youre dating.

You go into the conversation expecting that youll be the higher earner.

But then the man surprises you.

How would you feel if he reveals he earns three or four times more than you do?

We used most of the money to pay off debt and have been surviving on my salary.

I make enough to pay our bills, but theres very little left over for extras.

My fiance doesnt seem to think that this is a problem because were making ends meet.

Penny, I never wanted to be the sole earner, and I hate living paycheck to paycheck.

He tells me to stop nagging him whenever I ask him when hell start searching for a job.

How do I get him to understand how stressed I am about our finances?

-Squeaking By

Dear Squeaking By,

Try saying this: I am stressed about our finances.

Say it when youre sober.

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