Real Answers for Life’s Money Challenges
My boyfriend of eight years stopped working four years ago.
He told me he didnt have time to do the remodel and also have another job.
He never went back to work, and his son is now nearly 13 years old.
I pay for the entire cost of our housing because I own the house we live in.
I also pay for all utilities, and he pays for groceries.
He doesnt pay rent.
I am becoming extremely resentful of the situation, and Im afraid it will go on forever.
Its not like hes home taking care of the household and preparing dinner when Im at work.
What should I do?
Hes lived the sweet life for the past four years.
Can you blame him for milking this arrangement as long as he can?
you’re free to give him an ultimatum.
Or you might end this relationship.
hey, hey, hey take Option 1 off the table.
Since weve nixed the first option, lets focus on the other two.
If you want to make this relationship work, give him an ultimatum and a deadline.
Tell him he has 90 days to find a job, or he can move out.
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I have to ask, though: Do you really want to make this relationship work?
Maybe you failed to mention that your boyfriend has some wonderful qualities.
His claim that he couldnt do the home remodel while staying employed is nonsense.
Even if doing both was truly impossible, any mature adult would choose the job.
Accept the fact that you have several big arguments with your boyfriend ahead.
Conflict is never pleasant, particularly when it involves someone you live with.
But dont back down on this one.
Even if he claims hes doing his best.
Even if he claims the time is wrong.
Even if he calls you a nag.
The fact that you feel resentful is a sign that youre a rational person.
It doesnt sound like running your business is making you happy.
This situation isnt changing until you put a stop to it.
So let your boyfriend know that his free ride has ended.
Robin Hartill is a certified financial planner and a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.
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