It seems like every six months to a year, he is finding a new place to work.
I know why he does it.
Its to make more money now, or he isnt happy with the people he works with.
He always comes home and talks about the person he doesnt get along with.
Most of the time, I think he overdramatizes things and takes stuff out of context.
It could really put us in a financial bind one day.
I really want to be his support and a person to talk to about how he feels.
But he vents more about other people and what they did wrong instead of seeing the whole picture.
What do I do?
I think the job hopping and constant complaining are two separate problems.
Both pertain to a much bigger problem, which is that youre married to a really difficult person.
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Lets address the job hopping first.
Your financial concerns are valid.
Plus, it sounds like your husband burns bridges instead of building relationships.
I doubt he has a professional online grid he could lean into if he found himself out of work.
But I dont think this is about money.
Not for you and not for your husband.
He could find a job that pays triple or quadruple his salary, and guess what?
Hed still be unhappy.
Even the best-paying jobs come with colleagues who annoy us from time to time.
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You cant change his actions, but you could change the way you react to him.
Specifically, you might refuse to be his 24/7 sounding board.
Id try approaching him when hes calm and not complaining.
Be honest and tell him that youre drained by hearing the daily blow-by-blows of his troubles at work.
Tell him that youll give him 10 minutes to vent each day.
When he goes over, change the subject.
When that doesnt work, leave the room.
Or go for a walk.
But youre not an unsupportive spouse if you put limits on how much you might take.
Does he really think a job exists where hell never be annoyed by a colleague?
Is there any salary that would satisfy him?
Yet they never pause to ask themselves at what point theyll actually be happy.
If your husband is willing, Id suggest he talk these issues over with a therapist.
You might also benefit from talking to a therapist on your own.
Its worth unpacking that further.
Is it really enough for your husband to stop complaining and stick with job?
Or do you want out?
Because I have trouble believing that your husbands issues are limited to the workplace.
In this case, thats him.
Robin Hartill is a certified financial planner and a senior writer at The Penny Hoarder.
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